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Thursday July 23, 2009

My good friend, Janelle, is on the last legs of a 16 month home-building project. Unlike most of David’s clients who hand him the plans and think it is difficult making all the decisions and living through the time period of building, we “build it yourselfers” know what difficult really means. Practically single parenting. Enormous work load as you do your own work plus as much of your husband’s home responsibilities as you can to free him up. Long days and short nights. Terrible mental taxation as you make decisions based on personal preference and budget (and the two rarely jibe). Feeling like you have no husband and then feeling guilty because he is working as hard as you are to give you this gift of your own home. If you’ve built a house yourself, you know what I mean. If you haven’t, you’ve still had other times in your life that felt stressful to you.

I remember getting very sick with a strain of strep I couldn’t shake for three months the week before we moved. I’m wondering if you would join me in prayer that God would hold up Janelle and her family the next week or two as they finish and move in. Pray for physical, emotional, and mental strength during this one last hurrah. And while you’re thinking of her, go here and cheer her on!


Wednesday July 22, 2009

Little did I know ten years ago how much a part of my life grocery shopping would become. When you’re responsible to feed people, not just yourself, you need food. And so began my weekly jaunts to the grocery store. Sometimes it’s fun. Sometimes I’m maneuvering a long cart with the little toy car at the front plus holding Liam on my hip and trying hard to juggle a list, coupons, and grabbing items off the shelf without running into anyone. Sometimes it’s rushed, sometimes we meander along. Always we know we’re coming back.

I mostly shop at Kroger. They seem to be the only store with consistent low prices who also double coupons. But when I just need a few items I run to Food Lion because it’s much closer and whenever Harris Teeter doubles or triples coupons for a few days I stop there. If I never had to think about cost, I would shop at Harris Teeter all the time without a doubt. The store is squeaky clean, well lit and attractively laid out. The produce is always perfect.

When Kelvin and Beth were coming over to help on our deck she offered to bring some food so I asked her to please bring cantaloupe. She said she is horrible at choosing good produce so I suggested she stop at Harris Teeter. You don’t have to choose, just grab one and it will be good.

About 10:45 in walked Beth with a melon. It looked fine until we opened it. Mushy. Over ripe. Ewww. I called the manager and told her how disappointed I was and how I had purposely told my sister to stop there because I can always trust their produce. After apologies and finding out where we live (20-25 minutes away) she offered to bring another one out to the house. Well, I said a bit dubious, we were planning to eat lunch early, like 11:30. “I’ll leave as soon as I get off the phone,” she said. “Do you mind if I cut one open to make sure it’s ok before I bring it?”

Oh, not a problem. Thirty-five minutes later a manager rang the doorbell. He brought a lovely cantaloupe cut in half, plus additional slices plus two cartons of strawberries and many apologies for the inconvenience. “We cut five before we found a good one and ended up pulling the rest off the shelf. There’s just too much rain in FL right now to produce good melons.” I was thoroughly impressed.

When my parents started their homemade jam business, it didn’t take long to see the importance of a satisfied customer. “One happy customer will tell two or three people about your product. An unhappy one will tell ten,” they were told.

Yesterday I stopped at Whole Foods to see about options to build Liam’s immune system. The gentleman took me to the liquid vitamin section and I kept looking over the four selections trying to see some huge benefit in one over the other. “Do you know how they taste and do they have iron in them?” I asked. I tried giving Liam liquid iron when he was low at nine months and it was a lost cause. There is no hiding that flavor. We looked. No iron.

“Now you do know we have a 100% satisfaction guarantee so if he doesn’t like it, you can bring it back and we’ll refund your money,” he went on to say. I thought that was amazing. An open bottle? No ability to re-sell? That is customer service. And as I deliberated a little longer he said, “You know, if you want to try a bottle today, I’ll give it to you as a sample.” I could hardly believe my ears! A $20 + bottle sample? Unheard of but true. And so I happily had them order a liquid omega 3 6 9 complex and went to find goat milk yogurt. As I was checking out with a very friendly cashier who actually looked me in the eye more then a passing glance, asked about my welfare with animation, and continued to make conversation with the boys, the lady who spoke with me about the differences in goat milk and rice milk came back to make sure I’d found the yogurt.

Now that is customer support! Food Lion and Kroger take note!



Wednesday July 15, 2009

It feels like a long time since I’ve written anything of substance. And why I am blogging now when my brain is shutting down is more than I can tell. Except that writing has always been an amazing outlet for me. Getting things out of my brain seems to help me regain perspective. And since I told David my blood pressure feels like it might be around 230 over 176, writing might be a good idea.
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These days feel like deja vu. Days of screaming baby, remembering when the last does of advil and tylenol were administered, night wakings, hours and hours and hours rocking and walking and singing and hushing and walking again. Snot wiping, temperature checking, diarrhea explosions and worrying. Always worrying.

I get scared whenever someone with a virus is in the same building as Liam. Last weekend was a family reunion (make that the weekend before actually) and Liam started with a low grade fever and cough Monday night before we started home. He had “a cold” the next few days and then just as I thought he was getting better, his temperature spiked to 103 and stayed. By Saturday night I was alternating motrin and tylenol on top of each other and Monday night I took him to see the on call pediatrician. By the time Liam was four hours into his motrin dose, his temp would head right back up to to 103 and above. I’d give him Tylenol but he would continue to grow increasingly miserable. The hour after his motrin kicked in was always his best hour. And, of course, that was the hour the doctor saw him. After a few negative leads he took a peek in his ear. An ear infection. In his words: “This is not just an ear infection. This is pus everywhere, ear drum bulging ear infection.” And so we got azithromycin since Liam is allergic to penicillens. And then he dared to say, “I’m surprised he doesn’t have more pain.”
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Really. Doctors should never make statements like that to moms who have taken care of insanely fussy babies all weekend. Home we went only to endure another scary night. When Liam woke up the next time I held him close to me and felt the heat of his body burn through both our clothes. He cried and then stopped. And then his entire body started jerking. Just little, rhythmic jerks. I was so afraid. I held him and watched his eyes. Listened to his tachypneic breathing and scream whispered to David Lee that something is very wrong. When nothing worse happened and he stopped, I relaxed a little. He didn’t seem post-ictal but I have no idea what seizures in babies look like. The next morning it happened again.

I was so hoping the antibiotics were doing double time and thought the day would go at least somewhat better. Instead, he got much worse. From 10:00 on he screamed. Little breaks here and there but mostly screaming. And writhing. After an hour and a half I simply could not take it any longer. I called in to talk to the nurse and she called back to say they would call in a prescription for antipyrine drops. By then Liam had finally drifted off. He woke up screaming forty minutes later and cried almost the entire way to the drug store. If you think you are a strong person, I dare you to listen to a baby scream for hours on end. Honestly, I have never had a baby with colic but I have seen fussy. Fussy and screaming are very different.

The pharmacist said to warm the drops and he should get instant relief. I warmed them, tested the temperature and inserted. He arched his back and screamed even louder. After thirty minutes (how long is instant?) I called the pediatrician again. I don’t even want to know what they relayed in the office (the mom is crying and the baby is screaming in the background, I think it’s pretty bad ???) but they said to bring him in. And downtown we went again. Mercifully he fell asleep on the way in. And even better I got to see his regular doctor. He listened to the whole sobby story and said the tremors were probably febrile tremors. “Some kids get them just before a seizure.” And then he checked ears and said the bad one looked better but, oh, the other one is infected now too.

And now it’s today. The fever is gone and Liam is playing alone some. Still not eating much. Still not drinking enough to wet many diapers. Definitely still not sleeping. But just as definitely not screaming as much.
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The diarrhea is much worse thanks to the antibiotics. But what I do not like is the nagging fear in the pit of my stomach that something bigger is going on that we’re missing. What is making him pick up everything for miles around and then get much sicker with it than anyone else? And food intolerances? That’s a story for another day. I just wish he could feel well.




Wednesday July 1, 2009

                
This was enough to make me say, “Dear, God, please may I have a little girl sometime?”

Eden always makes me laugh.  I don’t know why.  There is something so grown-up about her even though she’s only 18 months old.  I love this poochy mouth.  Eden has the prettiest eyes.      
                                      

It’s so much fun being with little girls and seeing how different they are from little boys.  I love watching them giggle and be fascinated with pretty things.  I love to watch them pout (boys just get straight out mad and then get over it).  I love seeing how snuggly they are and the way they like to hold hands with their mommies.  And then I love coming home and watching my boys flip over each other on the living room floor.  They’re just all so cute.

Oh, and to meet these girls‘ very nice mommy, go here.


Wednesday July 1, 2009

                
This was enough to make me say, “Dear, God, please may I have a little girl sometime?”

Eden always makes me laugh.  I don’t know why.  There is something so grown-up about her even though she’s only 18 months old.  I love this poochy mouth.      
                                      

It’s so much fun being with little girls and seeing how different they are from little boys.  I love watching them giggle and be fascinated with pretty things.  I love to watch them pout (boys just get straight out mad and then get over it).  I love seeing how snuggly they are and the way they like to hold hands with their mommies.  And then I love coming home and watching my boys flip over each other on the living room floor.  They’re just all so cute.

Oh, and to meet these girls’ very nice mommies, go here.



Thursday April 23, 2009


Last night when Adam saw the vegetable box I was getting ready to open he said, “Is that Cain?”  My first impulse was to laugh and say, “Of course not, sweetie.”  Then I looked again.  Ok, so it’s not an image of Cain; but is it supposed to make us think of him? 

Watching the process of developing the name, Edenali, made me much more aware of what is really behind a name and how much we get visual and mental messages without realizing them.  If Beth weren’t headed to the beach for a wonderful, sun-drenched, children-free three days at the beach with Kelvin I would call her to ask for the exact amount of money behind the design of the arrow in FedEx.  (If you never noticed, look at the arrow created by the Ex.)  One of her school students noticed it and thought maybe it was co-incidence so Beth had her class write the company to ask them if they knew the arrow was there or if it was put there on purpose.

I love her version of the story.  She said, “I was out at recess time playing double base with my fifth and sixth graders (and if you don’t know Beth, that would have been blonde, 19 year old, 92 lbs who blends right in with the highschoolers) all out of breath and hair everywhere from racing around when in drove a vehicle she didn’t recognize.  An expensively suited executive emerged asking for ‘Miss Hershberger.’  I swallowed, tried to find some dignity and said, ‘yes, sir. That would be me’.”  Mr. FedEx representative himself had come to talk to them (impressive, right?  It makes me smile and say, “Yes, I like that company!” every time I see their trucks.) regarding the letter and answer their questions.

But back to the vegetables.  You know … Cain grew the first vegetables and even though he was born outside of Eden and had to work hard against the thorns and thistles (and ended up going against God) don’t you sort of mentally associate him with the garden of Eden?  So did Green Giant purposely create an image that makes us think that so we think their vegetables are better or no?  Maybe I should have Adam write and find out.  In the meantime, I’d better make some new everyday dresses.